Psst…Your Secrets Are Showing!

“I desire…that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel,
with modesty and self-control”

1 Timothy 2:8, 9

It’s funny the things that stick in your mind sometimes, isn’t it? A few years back, I was in a class at church when I witnessed an unfortunate incident I have yet to forget.

Everything was proceeding normally that Sunday morning until a woman came to the front of the room to make an announcement. The moment she faced the group and began speaking, all I could think was, “Oh, my word, somebody cover that cleavage!” 

Her dress was surprisingly low-cut in the front, and I groaned inside as I thought of all the men sitting in the room. If I, as a woman, was distracted by the revealing nature of this lady’s clothing, how much worse off must the men be? Poor guys, they just can’t get a break anywhere.😦

Now, the interesting thing about this story was that the woman had a piece of paper with her which included details about her announcement, and as she continued talking, she slowly raised the paper up and held it to her chest in a slightly awkward-looking manner until she returned to her seat. Based on her unnatural pose, it appeared as though she had realized about an hour too late that her clothing simply wasn’t appropriate for the setting. I know this sweet lady didn’t enter her closet that morning with the purpose of dressing as a stumblingblock for her brothers in Christ, yet without intentionally pursuing modesty, that’s just what happened.

In the arena of modesty, the old adage proves true–a failure to plan is a plan to fail. But the good news is, with a little practice, planning to dress modestly quickly becomes a way of life. In this interview for MomLife Today, Dannah Gresh shares a few thoughts and tips to encourage us to keep our secrets covered… 

Need more guidance on modesty? Check out the Modesty Heart Check written by Carolyn Mahaney and her daughters. This handout serves as a useful resource for moms and daughters alike.

Find more from Dannah at Pure Freedom.

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Photo: Scott Liddell

Getting Proactive about Purity

A few months back, I gave my sister a copy of Dannah Gresh’s new book Six Ways to Keep the “Little” in Your Little Girl. Now, at that time, my niece had only recently passed her first birthday, so I wouldn’t say my sister was having all that much trouble with keeping the little in her little girl. So, why, you may wonder, would I bother passing on a book that’s intended to help moms guide their girls from the tween to teen years?

Whether you realize it or not, you already know the answer to that particular question. 

They grow up so fast!

And because of how quickly children grow, wise Christian moms will realize they simply can’t delay in learning how to teach their daughters biblical truths about purity, modesty, and living as women in ways that will bring honor and glory to their Creator.  If you desire purity for your children, you’ve got to be proactive.

In this interview on 100 Huntley Street, Dannah Gresh explains how moms can make a vital difference in their daughter’s pursuit of purity…    

To learn more about Dannah Gresh’s events and resources, visit her website Pure Freedom.

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Discipling Our Daughters

“Older women…are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure…”

Titus 2:3-5

Over the weekend, I caught a bit of the new Miley Cyrus video that’s stirring up a new batch of controversy. The 17 year-old’s latest performance is being described as sexy, dark, and edgy, and has raised questions of whether or not the video is too mature for her age. While few would actually venture to answer that question, most of the people talking about the former Disney star’s newest production seem to agree on one thing–Miley has now entered the adult world. 

Aye-yi-yi! Dressing scantily and dancing provocatively–Is this the message we want to send to our daughters about what it means to become an adult woman? I cringe when I think of all the little girls I know who have been idolizing the teen star for the last five years. Will they continue to dream of becoming just like Miley one day?

Our daughters need role models who will teach them what it means to be godly women. Every day in our culture, they’ll be exposed to women offering to teach them how to be popular, alluring, attractive, sexy, and successful, but where will they go to discover what being a woman truly means? By God’s grace, moms, they’ll go to you. If you teach your daughters what biblical womanhood is all about from day one, you’ll spare them a world of heartache and prepare them to experience the joys of living life according to God’s design.

Here’s some encouragement to help you as you seek to raise up women of virtue. In the following video, author Dannah Gresh provides helpful advice regarding this vital endeavor:

In her contribution to the book Biblical Womanhood in the Home, Susan Hunt offers these wise thoughts on raising godly daughters:

Our daughters will be products of their theology. Their knowledge–or lack of knowledge–of who God is and what He has done for them will show up in every attitude, action, and relationship. Their worldview will be determined by their belief system.

We must teach our daughters that their value and identity lie in the fact that they are image-bearers of the God of glory. This will protect them from seeking significance in the inconsequential shallowness of self-fulfillment, personal happiness, materialism, or others’ approval.

Our daughters must know the wondrous truth that their overarching purpose in life is God’s glory. This must determine every decision they make, from their choice of clothes to their choice of a husband. The question that guides all of our decisions should be: Does this glorify God? First Corinthians 10:31 should be one of the first verses they memorize: “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” And they should see us making decisions based on this mandate…

All of this means that I must search my own heart. Am I trying to elevate myself through my daughter’s accomplishments and behavior? Is my primary concern her happiness or her holiness? Is God’s glory really the driving passion of my own life? These questions take me to the cross. They take me to Jesus to plead for grace and wisdom.

(pp. 150-151)

Raising daughters who desire to glorify God and see Him exalted in their lives is a challenging task, but with His strength and by His grace it is possible!

Photo: Gabriella Fabbri