Many of the words that we say to our own souls are destructive. They do not add to your life. Many of the words that we speak to our own souls are not truthful.
Proverbs 12 tells us that, “As a man thinks, so is he.” Loosely interpreted, “as a woman puts things in her thought closet, so is her life wardrobed.”
…There are a lot of things we need to work out in our thought closets between us and God before we ever take it out and make it public.
Once that thought agrees with truth, then it’s allowed in. When you begin to feed truthful thoughts into your thought closet, then your thought closet is filled with truth, and you can’t help but wardrobe your life in truth.
A woman who allows lies into her thought closet is:
wardrobed with a martyr spirit
wardrobed with hypersensitivity
wardrobed with pride
wardrobed with bitterness
But a woman who allows truth into her thought closet is:
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all
your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind,
and your neighbor as yourself.”
My perfectionistic tendencies are, in the words of the famed OCD detective Adrian Monk, both a blessing and a curse. When attempting to turn a cake into a work of art, perfectionism is my friend. In most other areas of life, however, the insatiable drive to have everything “just right” can function as a real stumbling block.
Take loving others, for instance. When I’m focused on accomplishing a goal or crossing every “t” and dotting every “i”, I can easily feel frustrated when people start “messing up” my plans or “interrupting” my schedule. Of course, the problem isn’t confined merely to how I prefer to get things done; I also struggle with my continual impulse to help everyone else cross their “t’s” and dot their “i’s” in just the right way. It’s sad to say, but loving others often feels far less pressing to me than does my desire to tie up the fraying ends of humanity.
If you, too, have adopted statements like ”If a job’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right,” or “If you want something done right, you’d better do it yourself,” as life mottos, then I think you’ll find Jennifer Rothschild‘s counsel in this video to be convicting as I did. She encourages us to remember that no rule should ever be allowed to take priority over the one Jesus gave to ”Love your neighbor as yourself”…
”I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.”
Do these words have a familiar feel on your lips? If so, then Jennifer Rothschild wants to help you replace them with a few phrases of faith, or as she puts it, she’s going to teach you how to talk like a gutsy girl…
True Woman continues to churn out helpful resources…
In a series of articles for the True Woman blog, Kimberly Wagner has been using the acrostic “APPRECIATION” to address multiple ways in which a wife can strengthen her relationship with her husband. Kimberly uses the letter “E” as an opportunity to share ideas on how wives can encourage their husband’s leadership. Her advice fits in well with issues we’ve discussed recently in “Ask Mel.” She says:
So often women lament the fact that they desire a spiritual leader; they long for their husband to lead–but he won’t! What I’ve found to be the most common factor in the high rate of male passivity is the wife’s domineering control or demeaning attitude when her husband makes any attempt to lead in a way which she doesn’t agree with.
She goes on to explain 3 ways wives can encourage their husband’s leadership:
No matter how small the decision may be, commend your husband when he is decisive.
Choose your places of dissent carefully.
Live each day in light of life’s momentary nature.
Read more of Kimberly’s advice on this topic in her articles:
“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up,
just as you are doing.”
1 Thessalonians 5:11
Do you find it difficult to offer encouragement to others? Jennifer Rothschild shares some wise thoughts on the source, nature, and effects of true encouragement. She draws a helpful distinction between merely giving compliments and actually giving courage to others.
“As for me, I shall behold Your face in righteousness; I will be satisfied with Your likeness when I awake.”
Several years ago, I heard about a woman who conducted a rather unusual experiment by removing every mirror from her home for a set period of days. She took this radical step in an attempt to free herself from what she believed was an unhealthy fixation on her own reflection. Without a mirror to tell her who she was, this woman felt she could more accurately gauge her value and worth as a woman.
I have to admit; the idea of such an experiment makes me shiver. Life without mirrors? Yikes! Personally, I find that mirrors are very useful tools, especially when I’ve just finished eating a salad. Although I certainly wouldn’t want to go without them, I do recognize the danger of becoming too dependent on them as well. A mirror can tell us many things, but not much of what we see there truly matters.
In this video clip, Jennifer Rothschild emphasizes the importance of gazing into the only mirror that can accurately reflect who we really are.
“…this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.”
2 Corinthians 4:17-18
Do your soul a favor this weekend–skip a sitcom and watch this instead! In a message given at Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, Texas, Jennifer Rothschild shared her testimony and explained how her experience with blindess has taught her to see through the eyes of faith:
Though fear is real, your faith is real. Though fear is powerful, your faith is more powerful. And that which you esteem highly in your life is that which will dominate you. May we never esteem our fear more highly than our faith. But by the grace of God, we can humbly with meekness kneel before God. And when our knees kneel before God, our faith must bow to His sovereignty and power. And therefore, we walk by faith and not by sight.
“Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for,
the conviction of things not seen.”
I’m sure you won’t mind if we end the workweek in the same way that we started it, right? This new True Woman video of Jennifer Rothschild is just too good for me not to share. Listen as she explains the importance of maintaining spiritual integrity when we ask God “Why?”
Wise words from a woman who’s learning to view life through God’s eyes:
It doesn’t have to be well with your circumstances for it to be well with your soul. We don’t wait for our circumstances to change so that we can experience a level of contentment in our faith, we ask God to change us in the midst of those circumstances.
A few months back, I heard Jennifer Rothschild express those thoughts in an interview that was challenging, inspiring, and more than a little convicting. You see, not only is Jennifer an author, speaker, singer, and woman of God, she also happens to be completely blind. Go back and read her quote about circumstances and contentment again. Don’t those thoughts carry just a bit more weight now that you know they came from a woman who has spent the vast majority of her life without the gift of sight?
After being diagnosed with retinitis pigmentosa at age 15, Jennifer became legally blind a few months later, and eventually lost all of her remaining vision. Instead of ending Jennifer’s dreams for a productive and meaningful future, her blindness actually served as a springboard from which she dove into a deeper knowledge of God, a closer relationship with Him, and a rich and fruitful ministry in His service. I believe you’ll be greatly encouraged as you learn from Jennifer that under God’s gracious care, we can be refined by suffering without being defined by it.
Learn more as Jennifer speaks about blindness, brokenness, and the sufficiency of God’s grace in a two-part interview with Nancy Leigh DeMoss on Revive Our Hearts. You can listen to, download, or read each program at these links: