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Depression tries to tell us what is true and what isn’t. For example, it says that you will never feel any different, and you can’t continue to live in such a condition. It says that God doesn’t care, and no one loves you. It tries to persuade you that nothing matters. Know, however, that depression lies! You have to tell it the truth, rather than listen to its interpretation of life…

Turn toward God, and instead of listening to your depression, listen to what he says about himself. The center of his message to you is the gospel of Jesus Christ. Jesus, the Son of God, became the Son of Man. He obeyed the Father perfectly, emptied himself, and became your servant. He died to give you life. Now he is the King, and through his death he brings you into his kingdom. Here on earth the kingdom of heaven is riddled with suffering, but we know the King is with us and our suffering is only for a short while. We also know that the King takes our suffering, which seems senseless, and makes it profitable in his kingdom. Read all of Romans 8 and pay special attention to these words, “We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers” (Romans 8:28–29).

This is God’s message to you. Beg for grace and mercy so you can hear it over the din of your depression.

~Ed Welch in “Hope for the Depressed

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What to Do When It’s All about Him

 
In the latest Ask the Counselor video from CCEF, Dr. David Powlison answers the question, “How would you counsel a woman whose husband displays the traits of a narcissist?”  Whether you’re married to a narcissist or not, I think you’ll find Dr. Powlison’s thoughts to be helpful as he expands the question to address a quandary we’re all familiar with: “How do you wisely love someone who is sinful?”
 

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What’s the Big Deal about Biblical Counseling?

“For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”

Hebrews 4:12

You won’t have to read this blog for long before figuring out that I’m pretty passionate about biblical counseling.

Not psychology.

Not even Christian psychology.

Biblical counseling–using the Word of God in the power of the Spirit of God to care for the souls of the people of God. That’s what I’m passionate about.

Wonder why? Here are a few reasons…  

Learn more about Paul David Tripp’s counseling resources HERE.

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Untangling the Roots of Depression

“Why are you in despair, O my soul?
And why are you disturbed within me?”

Psalm 43:5

Dr. David Powlison of CCEF offers a thoughtful and balanced response to a question many Christians ask about depression…

To learn more on this topic, check out Depression: A Stubborn Darkness written by one of Dr. Powlison’s colleagues at CCEF, Edward Welch.

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Ask Mel–How Do I Witness to Teenagers?

“For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles in one point,
he has become guilty of all.”

James 2:17

Witnessing to family members can be more than a little challenging at times. Today, I offer a few thoughts on how to approach sharing the gospel with teenaged relatives.

Resources I mentioned:

Do you have a question for Ask Mel?
You can send it to:
preciousadornment@gmail.com

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Ask Mel–How Do I Overcome Anger?

“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.”

Ephesians 4:26

Anger wreaks havoc on countless homes and relationships. All of us experience this destructive emotion in varying degrees, but for those struggling with a pattern of anger in their lives, real change can seem nearly impossible. Is there any hope for overcoming this deeply-rooted problem?   

The books I mentioned:

Uprooting Anger by Robert D. Jones

Anger & Stress Management God’s Way by Wayne Mack

If you have a question for Ask Mel, send it to: preciousadornment@gmail.com

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Ask Mel–Do I Have to Tell My Spouse I’ve Been Unfaithful?

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another…”

James 5:16

Is it more loving to conceal or to confess past unfaithfulness? In the following video, I offer a few thoughts on the inseparable link between confession and true repentance.

Have a question for Ask Mel? Send it to: preciousadornment@gmail.com.

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Becoming Our Brother’s Keeper

“Two are better than one…For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

In the latest video from CCEF, Mike Emlet gives a helpful explanation of how we should think about Christian accountability…

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Ask Mel–What Can I Do if My Husband Continues in Sin? (Pt.1)

“But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,”
that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.”

Hebrews 3:13

Today, I address the difficult question of what a wife should do when her husband becomes involved in a life-dominating sin…

You can visit the Ask Mel page to view the previous videos on biblical submission that I mentioned.

Have a question for Mel? Send it to: preciousadornment@gmail.com.

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Ask Mel–How Do I Help My Friend Grow Spiritually? (Pt. 1)

“A friend loves at all times…”

Proverbs 17:17

Today, I share a few thoughts relating to friendship and spiritual growth…

[Sorry for shouting "Hi!" I just can't contain my enthusiasm sometimes.  :)]

Part 2 will be posted on Monday.

Do you have a question about life, love, & other mysteries? Send it to:
 preciousadornment@gmail.com.

Have you struggled with this issue in your own friendships?

How would you attempt to encourage your friends in their walk with Christ?

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Ask Mel–How Do I Handle Marriage to an Unbeliever? (Pt. 2)

“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word
by the conduct of their wives…”

1 Peter 3:1

This is the second half of a two-part series answering the question,
“How should a Christian wife handle marriage to an unbelieving husband?”
You can view Part 1 HERE.

Want to ask Mel a question? Send your email to preciousadornment@gmail.com.

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Ask Mel–How Do I Handle Marriage to an Unbeliever? (Pt.1)

“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word
by the conduct of their wives…”

1 Peter 3:1

Trying something new today… Hope you enjoy.

 

Want to ask Mel a question? Send your email to preciousadornment@gmail.com.

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Ask Mel–Am I Anti-Social?

“Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor.”

1 Corinthians 10:24

[Today, I'm beginning a new feature on Precious Adornment, "Ask Mel," which I hope will be a fun and beneficial addition to the blog. Since no one is writing to me asking for my advice, I decided to write to myself. :) I'll use this pretend letter to present a real problem and offer straightforward, no-nonsense solutions from God's Word. Hope you enjoy!]  

Dear Mel,

I have a problem and need some advice. My husband is the kind of guy who loves being around people. Church events, Bible studies, dinners, parties—wherever there’s an activity involving a group of people, that’s exactly where he wants to be. The problem? Being around groups of people just isn’t my cup of tea. I would much rather spend quiet evenings at home with my husband and a good book, which causes more than a little tension between us at times. He says I’m anti-social; I say I’m just not a people person. Is there any hope for harmonizing our mismatched personalities?

Signed,

Anti-Social in Anaheim?

Dear Anti-Social,

Let me start with the simple answer to your question—yes, there is hope. God wants to blend your differing personalities together to make your marriage sing. A song sung in unison simply can’t compare to the beauty of singing in harmony; that’s why God takes two people with differing strengths and weaknesses and joins them together in marriage. Right now, you probably both need to work on your individual parts before you begin harmonizing, but you have to let him concentrate on overcoming his bad notes while you focus on your own.

You say you’re not a people person, and I assume what you mean is that you’re not an extrovert. This is an important distinction, because you can be Christlike without being an extrovert, but I’m afraid you can’t be like Christ without becoming a people person. Hang with me while I explain further.

When I say people person, a picture of the stereotypical social butterfly probably pops into your head. You know, the popular person who turns get-togethers into parties with his sparkling conversation, jokes, and non-stop entertainment. That’s not what I mean when I refer to being a people person. When I think people person, I think Jesus Christ. Think about it. If ever a human being could be described as being a people person, it would be Him. The days of His public ministry were filled with meeting, talking to, spending time with, praying for, encouraging, speaking truth to, serving, and sacrificing for other people. His entire life revolved around the two great commandments—loving God and loving others, and He told us that our lives must travel the same orbit (Matt. 25:34-39; Jn. 13:34). The choice for each of us as Christians is not between being anti-social or being social butterflies, but between becoming GOD-centered, OTHERS kinds of people or remaining SELF-centered, ME kinds of people.

So, what am I saying? First, I’m not saying you have to give up all of your quiet evenings at home to spend time with people every night, but you probably do need to give up one every now and then. Also, I’m not saying you shouldn’t enjoy time spent alone; Jesus knew that in order to be a God-centered, others kind of person, He needed to spend time alone with His Father and rest. Here’s the bottom line—the command to love God and love others doesn’t allow room for being anti-social. It does allow room for the enjoyment of solitude, a preference for one-on-one quality time, and of course, room for improvement in becoming a Christlike people person. It’s impossible to communicate love while being anti-social. So, begin to love others with small steps–make a phone call, invite someone over for dinner, or write an encouraging note. When motivated by your love for God, these small steps will lead you toward the path blazed by Christ.

While many people enter this world as natural extroverts, none of us arrives as a God-centered, others kind of person. That kind of selflessness requires God’s grace at work in our sanctification. Extroverts can be motivated by selfishness, just as introverts can. The good news is that in Christ, our personalities are not fixed in stone; God is continually molding them to look more and more like Christ’s. Whatever our natural personality, we must all learn to do what we do for God’s glory and the good of others. Pray and meditate on Philippians 2:1-11, and as you remember Christ’s example of humble servanthood in that passage, focus on Paul’s instruction in verse 4: “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” If both you and your husband make this command a priority, you’ll find yourselves harmonizing in no time.

Hoping for your harmony,
Mel

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The law of the LORD is perfect,
reviving the soul;
the testimony of the LORD is sure,
making wise the simple;
the precepts of the LORD are right,
rejoicing the heart;
the commandment of the LORD is pure,
enlightening the eyes;
the fear of the LORD is clean,
enduring forever;
the rules of the LORD are true,
and righteous altogether.
More to be desired are they than gold,
even much fine gold;
sweeter also than honey
and drippings of the honeycomb.
Moreover, by them is your servant warned;
in keeping them there is great reward.

Psalm 19:7-11

I’m trying something just a bit different today that I hope you’ll enjoy. Click the play button below to hear a little audio update from yours truly.  :) 


Read “The Sufficiency of Scripture” by John MacArthur

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