Your daily dose of true beauty advice… Along with strengthening our relationship with God, being thankful also serves as a preventative against many problems and sins. If you make the choice to be thankful, there are a lot of battles you … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… Our electronic world often influences the way we relate to God. We “abide in him” as though we were charging our smartphone or our iPad. We think, How long do I have to be … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… Anger always requires a judge, because they are the ones who make judgments. In the Old Testament metaphor, something can be displeasing “in my eyes” or “in your eyes” or “in the eyes of … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… Learning to love difficult people starts with understanding that you (like me) are hard to love too. You might not be difficult to love in the same way as those around you are, and … Continue reading
William P. Smith: Parenting, as with every area of life, can tempt us to focus on obtaining some good part of creation instead of worshiping the Creator. The apostle Paul explains it this way: “They exchanged the truth of God … Continue reading
Mike Emlet: The Bible tells us that before you help others with their sins, you have to face and repent of your own sins (Matthew 7:3-5). When your child throws a tantrum or hits a sibling in anger, she is … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… Jesus firmly and tenderly emphasized this promise: “Your father knows what you need. . . . Don’t be afraid, little flock, because your Father has chosen gladly to give. . . .” [Matt. 6:25-34] … Continue reading
William P. Smith: Haven’t there been times when your child pushed all your buttons, and you said and did things that later bothered your conscience? Why is your conscience uneasy? Weren’t you just correcting your child’s bad behavior? You are … Continue reading
“You are good and do good; teach me your statutes.” Psalm 119:68 With the second anniversary of Evangelle’s homecoming approaching later this week, I’ve found myself thinking frequently about how clearly God’s sovereignty and goodness has been displayed in the … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… Oh, no, it’s not going to go away! That’s exactly what I said when I was told my quadriplegia was permanent. That’s the word that scared me: permanent! You see, colds and the flu, … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… We are functioning as a judge when we remain bitter against someone. We assess the evidence against someone, render a verdict, and declare him guilty. James challenges our judgmentalism: “There is only one Lawgiver … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… My friend, Diana, has struggled with her weight ever since I knew her in high school. In the last few years, though, her size brought on big problems in her joints, her heart, and … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… Notice how close the word discipline is to another biblical word, disciple. God’s discipline serves to make us Christ’s disciples. The trials we face are divinely designed to mature us so that we become more serviceable disciples … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice… For those with autoimmune disorders, pain and fatigue can really make life challenging. My friend Jennifer knows this well. But Jennifer recently told me, “Joni, just knowing that the Lord is on my side … Continue reading
Your daily dose of true beauty advice…
No human being was ever meant to be the source of personal joy and contentment for someone else. Your spouse, your friends, and your children cannot be the sources of your identity. When you seek to define who you are through those relationships, you are asking another sinner to be your personal messiah, to give you the inward rest of soul that only God can give.
Only when I have sought my identity in the proper place (in my relationship with God) am I able to put you in the proper place as well. When I relate to you knowing that I am God’s child and the recipient of his grace, I am able to serve and love you.
However, if I am seeking to get identity from you, I will watch you too closely. I will become acutely aware of your weaknesses and failures. I will become overly critical, frustrated, and angry. I will be angry not because you are a sinner, but because you have failed to deliver the one thing I seek from you: identity.
When I remember that Christ has given me everything I need to be the person he has designed me to be, I am free to serve and love you. When I know who I am, I am free to be humble, gentle, patient, forbearing and loving as we navigate the inevitable messiness of relationships.
~Timothy S. Lane and Paul David Tripp in Heart of the Matter, p. 45